The other day I was sitting in a Tim Hortons cafe, in a fairly affluent and conservative town, preparing for a conference call when I happened to hear some young Tim Horton’s employees having a friendly discussion. One girl said, ‘Boy, I sure am excited for the weekend! I get to go see my dad.’ The other young gal said, ‘Your parents aren’t together anymore?’ To which the first replied, ‘No. They got divorced when I was in elementary school. My dad saw a show on TV of what signs to look for in your wife to see if she may be having an affair. My dad saw the signs, and hired a private detective friend of his to follow my mom around. The private detective says he caught my mom with another man. My dad confronted my mom and she denied everything. My dad still wanted to work it out despite not believing her. My mom felt completely betrayed and decided to divorce my dad. She still denies the affair to this day. Anyway, I’m very excited to see my dad. He is the light of my life and I hardly ever get to see him.’ The other girl, not to be outdone, said, ‘My parents got divorced when I was five. My mom remarried and when I was 14 my step-dad killed himself in front of me and my mom. After that, my real mom and dad got back together. Weird, huh? I’ve seen way to much for my age, but I think I’m doing all right.’ A few minutes later as I sat there processing all that I had just overheard, in walked the young manager who I had seen a couple of times before. He said to the second young lady, ‘You’re pregnant again? You’re back together with what’s his name?’ The young pregnant mom replied, ‘I am pregnant again, and yes, the same guy is the dad. We got back together for a little bit, but now we are done for good. He just got in trouble again and is going back to jail for 6 months.’
As I sat there in a sad and melancholy state, I became more and more convicted about what we do with LIFE. As Orrin Woodward put it, ‘It is as though we are in a massive desert and have happened upon an endless well of water. Fresh, clean, life-giving water, and everyone who passes by is dying of thirst!’ I have no doubt that If these girls were open to listening to a few LIFE CDs, reading great books like Rascal, Resolved or The Magic of Thinking Big, and commit to being part of a ‘Challenge group‘ every other Tuesday that they could totally get their lives on track and potentially turn the madness into gladness for future generations. As Dale Carnegie said, ‘Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain….and most fools do!’ Chris Brady says, ‘The only way to truly be happy is to give happy’. What we do is so simple: start conversations, listen for needs, pass out some CDs, and lead the ones who liked the CDs to the Mental Fitness Challenge. It’s that simple, just pay it forward! There is nothing more fulfilling than knowing that what you are doing on a daily basis is fulfilling your purpose and making a difference. We have our hands on something great! Don’t play small!! No fear, no excuses, no regrets……Take a chance!!!